I recently received the following message from one of my blog readers on Myspace. However, the questions she asked, and feelings she shared are not just her own, but felt by quite a few of you who read my posts and send me your questions as well. So, I wanted to share this email with you. For the sake of privacy, I have changed the readers name. However, I am sure, we have all felt this way in some form or another. Please share your thoughts, comments, or questions, below, once you finish reading this post.
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i am sure that you get a lot of questions but i am assuming that’s why you even have this page. i loved your blog on effective weight loss! that is my battle right now and i have been having a hard time. i feel that i have been doing all the right things though i have been setting myself back in the past 2 months since i have stopped going to curves and my son is out of school. long story short…
i had a baby last year and i guess it’s a hell of a lot harder to lose that on round 2! i can lose weight and i can lose fat pretty well too but i can’t seem to get rid of the tummy fat and tighten that skin back up! i disgust myself when i see it and am extremely ashamed of it. i almost feel like it’s hopeless but i know that there are people out there that get rid of that without surgery right!?! i am hoping so at least.
well…if there is anyway that you can help me out and give me some tips for that problem area of mine i would so greatly appreciate it! if not, i guess i will have to keep reading your blogs to see what else i can try! ; ) thanks for everything!! M.~
Hello M:
Thanks for supporting my page and having confidence in me. I love receiving questions from all of my friends here on Myspace. There are times where it may take a day or two to answer them all, but I make sure I answer every one, because spreading the benefits of good health is why I am here. There are times when even the best of us have setbacks. It’s not just you. Heck, I have them also.
However, setbacks, our past, a few bumps in the road, or getting off track is not what defines us. We are all human, and not perfect. What truly defines us is how we move past those obstacles and setbacks. One of the first ways to move past a setback, is to recognize that it is in the past and cannot be changed. I wouldn’t focus so much on the next day either, as we can never really know what the future holds. The one thing you have to ask yourself is, "What am I doing now, and what am I doing that is different and better than yesterday?"
Remember, the only constant is "you." You mentioned that you are no longer going to Curves, and that your son is out of school for the summer. Well, you are in an ideal situation. Since you little man is out of school, why not take this time to save money on the Curves membership, and take the kiddos to the park and run around…for "free?" Join them, and feel like a kid again! Better yet, how about spending some time in the pool, hiking, camping, walking around the neighborhood in the cooler evening hours, or going to a nearby amusement park?
Simply, going outside and playing in your backyard, hoola-hooping (remember that? It’s great exercise, and really works your abs), or playing hopscotch on the sidewalk not only is fun, but can be quite a workout also. Sometimes, we make exercise too hard, and over-think what we should do. It’s not always about going to the gym or picking up a weight. The simplest thing, such as getting out and playing in the park, shooting basketball with the kids, or playing kickball,is not only a good workout, it’s the "F" word that seems to be lacking in a lot of exercise programs today….F-U-N!
By the way, congratulations on having a new baby last year. Did you know there are workouts you can do with your newborn, that will not only help you lose those last few hard-to-lose pounds, but help you bond and have fun with your little one? I’ve designed plenty of programs for new moms, and their little warriors, and they all loved them. You definitely have nothing to be ashamed of. You possess the greatest title and occupation in the world…..Mom!
As parents, we know one of the most important qualities we have to possess when raising little warriors is "patience." Living a healthy lifestyle, losing unwanted pounds, finding what exercises are right for you, as well as "re-learning" how to eat in a society that prides itself on trying to force artificial food on you for profit, takes a lot of patience. However, the journey does not have to be so daunting. It can actually be fun. The key is to know exactly what you want from your program. Be very specific. Focus on that goal.
Make it your mantra, and as with anything we want very badly, do not let anything stand in your way of getting what you want. Always know that when it comes to you, no one nor nothing can stop you from achieving any goal……but you. Just know that there is no quick fix (not even surgery) for long term fat loss, nor can you just pick an area of your body and decide to remove fat just form that area. Your body works as a machine…one whole unit, and does not understand separating sections of it in order to function properly.
Your body is not in the business of "divide & conquer." Imagine if you only put new tires on your car, regularly and only focused on that. Meanwhile you neglect to get scheduled oil changes, tune ups, and used cheap gas to fuel it. I’m sure, in time, your car would cease to function properly….But look at the bright side, your tires and those chrome rims sure look good, right ; -D
Our bodies aren’t any different. we have to put the best high octane fuel in it (fresh, natural, clean foods), tune it up (regular daily physical activity), recharge our batteries (relaxation/massage/sleep/quiet time), and continue to map out our destination as we move forward (write down goals…big and small….and stick to them). I wish you the best in your health journey, and know that I am right here by your side, cheering you on.
I hope to continue to provide you with the quality health & fitness info you desire. Just stick with me mama, as I have some great things coming down the pipe that I am sure will benefit you and my other great readers. Make sure you join my email updates by sending a blank email to j1fitnews @ aweber.com. Shortly after you send that email, you will receive a confirmation email to join the list. Simply click the confirmation link in that email, and you are in!
Once you do that, make sure you add j1fitnews @ aweber.com to your email program’s address book, to ensure you never miss an update. Also, subscribe to my blog here, as well. All the best to you and your little warriors, mama. Take care. Your biggest fan, Sincere~ "The People’s Fit Coach"
